New Year, New You?

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As the holiday season is winding down, many people are getting excited about new years- particularly, new years eve.

It’s become this huge event- where most people (and I am generalizing here), are concerned about what party/event to attend, who will be there, and of course… what are you wearing? So the party happens, the night fades into dawn, and… it’s a new year.

I don’t have anything against anyone who chooses to go out and have “fun” (depending on your definition of fun), but soon after one reflects and what was the main purpose of that glam event? You’ll eventually come home, wash the heavy make up off, kick off your shoes, and wonder “why did I do *insert really awkward scenario from that night* or “why didn’t I do *insert something useful you would have rather done*

Soon after, you take your sheet of paper out of the drawer or pile of books that it’s been sitting under and look at the long list of things to do.

  • Go to the gym everyday
  • Eat clean
  • Travel

Again, I am generalizing, but you understand the main point (hopefully…)

As you look through this overwhelming list, you realize each of your resolutions will take an abundance of time and a procedural method to meet. This leaves you feeling intimidated, perhaps you pursue one or two things on your list, but soon after you’re filled with lethargy and that list gets lost in the chores and errands that you have to get done.

The point?

You don’t meet your resolutions.

The Solution

No, this isn’t meant to discourage you, but instead think about your actions.

Think about where you go, what you do, and who you spend your time with. This often reflects who you are and upon questioning these things, you may come to realize you do certain things “just because” with no particular reason, whilst you could be doing something you truly wish to be doing.

This was where I found myself when I realized a lot of things I indulged in, I did because of the people around me, not because I truly enjoyed it.

Everything is a learning experience-you learn and move on.

Question yourself, ask why, and do those things you want to get done.

The New Years Resolution Cliche… 

Just don’t join the bandwagon. Who says you have to wait until the new year to have resolutions and goals?

New year, fresh slate? Everyday is a new day that you’re blessed to see and blessed to start over on.

Make Things Happen

Think of your main goal- now break it down into categories and from categories into realistic sections and have a weekly plan, then break it down to a daily plan.

By doing this, you’ll know what you have planned everyday so you’ll get 2 things out of this:

1. Productivity

2. Less procrastination 

You don’t have to be part of the whole new year, new me stigma. You have the power to decide, decide what you want to do and what you don’t wish to do.

So, break out of it. Get things done sooner.

Some may anticipate the fireworks, as the ball drops and confetti pours from the sky…

I say, appreciate everyday- instead of caving into socially constructed rules, make your own and make things happen.

Your Mood Board

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Visuals are powerful. 

It’s true that visual cues help us to remember and retrieve information better than words. Words are abstract and is therefore more difficult for the brain to retain. Visuals have a way of allowing us to remember by associating ideas and memories with imageries.

An example

Just the other day, I was going through my old pieces of writing and found written pieces I wrote for my campus newspaper. Not only did this intrigue me to write more and question why I stopped, but it reminded me of the enjoyment I got from writing. I wanted to have my pieces of writing somewhere to remind me, to inspire me… thus, The Mood Board.

All you need is a bulletin board that can be found at your local craft store. If you’re creative, you can spray paint it to rid yourself of the traditional bulletin board image. Along with your board, you will need… visuals.

This can be tokens of work that reminds you of your goals and dreams. It can be quotations if you’re a wordy person, or just pictures of places you’ve been, places you want to go to, things you’ve done and things you once day wish to accomplish.

It’s your board, design it to your own liking.

Plan how you will like to have it arranged and use thumb tacks to set  everything into place. I suggest you hang it somewhere you’ll see it everyday, such as your office or bedroom.

 

I believe our experiences shape who we are. The tears, the heartbreak, and the misfortunes all play a perfect place in our life. You wish in that moment to break down, to fall to your knees and give up, but little do you know those same challenges, those fears, which builds its way into the deep and dark corners of your mind is meant to happen to you.  You don’t know what’s right for you all the time, and sometimes those mistakes and experiences that we wish we could erase have all happened for a purpose. Don’t let it overcome you-these tarnished emotions. Come out better, stronger, happier-because you made it. You made it through.