When something goes wrong in your life, how do you deal with it? Does your heart automatically sink into a pool of despair and anger? Are you rushed with emotions that put you down and leave you no way to escape? Do you feel like the walls are closing in on your life, you’re left with no more options and no one, I mean absolutely no one can ever come close to understanding how you feel?
This is the way most of us deal with pain, heartbreak, and disappointments. Don’t get me wrong, it isn’t an easy thing to deal with but if we only stopped to take a breath of air, think clearly, and reflect on why we are in this scenario, we would save our self from a lot of heartache.
When something goes wrong in my life, my heart pounds with nervousness and fear and the way I used to deal with it is by running to people and things for distraction. To numb my mind from the pain and lingering thoughts. This worked for a little while, but you are not getting to the root of the problem. Sure, you’ll distract yourself, you’ll create other dialogues and situations, and you’ll try to tell yourself you’re fine.
Truth is, you’re not fine.
In order to move forward from a negative situation in your life, you must be honest with yourself.
Come clean to yourself.
Why did this happen? What were the actions you took in this situation and what are the actions you can now take to sort things out or to move forward in the most positive way?
Reflect on reasons as to why this could have happened and ponder on what doors of opportunity it could have opened for you.
If you are constantly thinking about why things went wrong and stay there- never allowing your mind to move forward in its though process, then how can you possibly be at peace?
A horrible situation in your eyes can be seen as the complete opposite in another person’s mind. It depends on how you choose to look at it, how you decide to deal with it.
Personally, meeting with God, asking for His help, putting my sole trust in Him and His words is what helps me. For me, I know there is no one greater who can guide me to betterment, I know that people can get tired from relentlessly hearing you “complain”. For me, I find my peace in solitude with Him.
Sometimes we are put in certain situations to learn something about ourselves we could have not known otherwise.
Sometimes we believe we are ready for something, when in reality we are not.
Sometimes, we need to have faith and know that there is a plan for us-something bigger and better than our small minds can even imagine.
It isn’t easy. It is filled with challenges. It’s an emotional roller coaster. Lost, confused, questioning.
But sometimes, we just need to believe.